I’m going to be blunt with it; I hate it. I hate it because it’s whole feature forces me to change the opinion on someone more easily by allowing me to know if that person is ignoring me or not.
Yes, you can’t generalize and say that all the time someone in specific reads your message and doesn’t reply, is in fact, ignoring you. “I was busy” or “I don’t know what to reply” may be fine some time, but when you see the pattern that it’s all the bloody time, you may as well just tell me you want me to fuck off or just simply don’t want to interact with me.
Say, if you’re going to be ‘so busy’ or 'don’t know what to say’ all the time then why the heck connect at all?
To put it like this; is rude. Willingly ignoring someone IS violent, paying the silent treatment IS violence. You are putting a psychological pressure to someone that most of the time does not know what’s going on.
Yes if you know why someone is ignoring you then it’s fine, but if you don’t you’re just being violent to the other person.
And by experience, it doesn’t end up well. It’s WAY much better to be frank and tell “Listen, I don’t like you, I don’t want to chat with you”, fine fine. You had been honest and there’s no real reason to keep spending time trying to contact.
But if you DON’T that’s time that’s spent trying to realise, understand, and contact you in vain due to the silent treatment.
I suppose many don’t realise the consecuences of their act, I know I’m guilty of that since I can’t know every reaction and to be frank, I don’t have much social experience, so there may be things that I do that may offend someone and I don’t realise.
So interacting with others to realise those mistakes is key, and if I can’t realise it on my own I would depend on others to know that. And being ignored does not help.
So for me, don’t play the 'ignoring game’. It will not help me, it will not help you, and communicating, discussing and solving problems is way better than resorting to indirect or direct violence. After all, as species we can’t just progress with that kind of behaviour, can’t we?
I don’t go for the ignoring part, if I get a question, etc and I can reply, I will reply. I have 'that thing’, call it OCD or whatever. But I expect the same treatment in terms of replying. Not being able, fine, but state it, and be reasonable.
There’s not much to be asked in a polite conversation.
(BTW I know you can disable the feature on Whatsapp, but not on Telegram or Facebook, and I don’t use Whatsapp)